Every year I become obsessed with the idea of a "perfect" birthday--so much so that I become paralyzed with indecision and end up doing hardly anything at all to celebrate. I told my best friend this last year, and he was appalled. He said, "fuck that, I'M planning you a surprise birthday." I invited all the people in my life I wanted to celebrate with to a private chat, removed myself so they could plan the surprise day, and was simply told to be ready at 11 a.m. on my birthday (October 27th) to be picked up. It was the best birthday I've ever had--full of friends and loved ones, going to a drag brunch, a pop-up book shop at a local brewery, and rounded off with a showing of Rocky Horror Picture Show at a local gay bar. It was humbling and lovely to know my friends knew me so well to plan the most perfect birthday and even more lovely to have them take the time out of their busy lives to spend it with me.
being paralyzed with indecision is too relatable. what a cool itinerary and thoughtful friends, glad that you have such wonderful people in your life! its definitely touching to experience such care. thanks for sharing, monica 💗
so relatable. every year on my birthday i think i'm gonna do something and then it's too overwhelming and i don't do anything. this has been going on for the last 20 years... my last real birthday celebration was when i was 10. thanks for the shout out, love seeing your recent self portraits!
My birthday is in September. I live away from my homecountry and most of my acquaintances here have no idea it's my birthday (because I haven't told them haha). I receive lots of texts from family and friends but I don't really celebrate, I just do something special that feels indulgent. This year that was going to a museum in my neighbourhood that I had never been to, dressing pretty, and making Malaga ice cream. So in a way I do celebrate but in privacy and without the pressure of organizing a party if that makes sense :) Happy birthday!
oh i love that, what a lovely way to spend the day and celebrate yourself. i dont think ive ever had malaga ice cream! and i def relate to not telling people, ive often felt that my attempts to bring up in convo would seem out of place (but maybe just a me problem). thank you for sharing, jimena 💗
Every year I become obsessed with the idea of a "perfect" birthday--so much so that I become paralyzed with indecision and end up doing hardly anything at all to celebrate. I told my best friend this last year, and he was appalled. He said, "fuck that, I'M planning you a surprise birthday." I invited all the people in my life I wanted to celebrate with to a private chat, removed myself so they could plan the surprise day, and was simply told to be ready at 11 a.m. on my birthday (October 27th) to be picked up. It was the best birthday I've ever had--full of friends and loved ones, going to a drag brunch, a pop-up book shop at a local brewery, and rounded off with a showing of Rocky Horror Picture Show at a local gay bar. It was humbling and lovely to know my friends knew me so well to plan the most perfect birthday and even more lovely to have them take the time out of their busy lives to spend it with me.
being paralyzed with indecision is too relatable. what a cool itinerary and thoughtful friends, glad that you have such wonderful people in your life! its definitely touching to experience such care. thanks for sharing, monica 💗
so relatable. every year on my birthday i think i'm gonna do something and then it's too overwhelming and i don't do anything. this has been going on for the last 20 years... my last real birthday celebration was when i was 10. thanks for the shout out, love seeing your recent self portraits!
AH thank you for reading and your comment, made my day 💗 its been a pleasure following your journey!
Me? This year, I nearly forgot it was my birthday. But other years, I used to make dinners for friends.
Ah, making dinner for friends is so sweet. How did you decide what to cook?
My birthday is in September. I live away from my homecountry and most of my acquaintances here have no idea it's my birthday (because I haven't told them haha). I receive lots of texts from family and friends but I don't really celebrate, I just do something special that feels indulgent. This year that was going to a museum in my neighbourhood that I had never been to, dressing pretty, and making Malaga ice cream. So in a way I do celebrate but in privacy and without the pressure of organizing a party if that makes sense :) Happy birthday!
oh i love that, what a lovely way to spend the day and celebrate yourself. i dont think ive ever had malaga ice cream! and i def relate to not telling people, ive often felt that my attempts to bring up in convo would seem out of place (but maybe just a me problem). thank you for sharing, jimena 💗